Think Positive No Matter What

I was speaking with a friend the other day and for some reasons she seemed to be full of negative views and perceptions of life. She tried to narrate most of her encounters to me; which she found very displeasing. There was so much bitterness and a sort negative energy as she spoke and almost every scenario seems to be worthless or have some negative news in stock for her.

However, as I listened to her I felt her pain to an extent but I do not think my friend is handling the situation the best way she could. To be honest, she can only jeopardise the beautiful future that I can see that lies ahead of her and most importantly would fail herself.

I have known this friend back in the days and I tried to remind her of situations where she made very good decisions/choices and when she had encouraged other people. 'You are the still same person and can do whatever you convince yourself to do; just start from somewhere', I said to her.

I tried to let her see that all those instances she has termed bad luck were not necessarily bad luck. 'Sometimes, things happen for a reason and there are times they just happen. How we cope is what differentiates us from another,' I told her.

In my opinion, there are lots of things one ought to be grateful for; if not for anything: the gift of life, shelter, clothes and food on our table. Being able to drive expensive cars and go on vacation yearly should not be a yardstick for measuring a good life.

Nonetheless, as humans, there are times we are faced with difficult challenges and think all seems bleak and the future doomed, that too will come and go. I strongly believe that no situation is permanent, what matters is what we make out of any given situation. 

As I and my friend chatted, I asked her about her faith and encouraged her to muster the strength to fight her battles. 'You are still young, have your career and have a very supportive family - all of these should serve as a drive for you. When for you feel down-casted, look back and thank God for all you have.  'I think you already have a lot', that made her laugh. 

I made her realise that she cannot give up on her life goals and most importantly not to give up on herself. Finally, I encouraged her go to God in prayers and leave all that troubles her with Him.  

The conversation reminded me of a book I read some time ago 'The Secret' by Rhonda Byrne. I encouraged my friend to go through it. This book speaks in great volume about positive thinking; how thoughts and feelings creates one’s life, how feeling good sends a good signal into the universe and attracts good things to the individual. It mentioned things like having secret shifters i.e. list of things that can help change how one is feeling in a snap such as funny moments, favourite music, someone you love etc. 

The book comprises of collections from different writers. It is a nice piece of work. 

Have a beautiful August my Lovelies.

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Help Another If You Can

We need to understand that no one is completely complete on their own. 

The essence of having each other can never be overrated; be it at home, place of work or study.

That is why we should seek honesty in whatever we do.

There are people with large hearts but think they have to act otherwise because of an ugly encounter they had.

We should learn from all situations but shouldn't let the bitter ones be a yardstick for our character.

Nevertheless, still believe that there are people out there with good intentions.

And you will find them.

Do not assume that all have evil minds.

Treat others well and expect nothing less from them.

That should be your guiding principle.

Assuming we all have the interest of others at heart and make life worth living for them.

Won't the world be a much comfortable place for many people? 

For some, they already have a lot of trouble to deal with and your kind approach or warm gestures will make a great difference.
Do not make an already difficult situation worse; Knowingly or unknowingly.

If you can't help people in your own little way, please do not make them sigh, shed a tear or get hurt.
They can still live being hopeful that one day all their troubles will be gone with the wind. 

No Good Friendship Without Love

Good friends are hard to find but when you count yourself lucky to have at least one of them, do keep them. Sometimes, we might not be continually in contact with them but the fact remains that whenever we do, it feels so evergreen. It creates a sound state of mind as people understand and take you for who you truly are, without much questions or concerns for gossip.

Love is such a beautiful thing that we cannot talk about friendship or companionship of any sort without making reference to it. It drives us to do things willingly for the welfare and happiness of others. No wonder the bible has so much teachings in regards to love.

Drawing strength from the story of St Valentine, especially during his days in the prison and the friendship he had at that time. The story mentioned he had lots of visitors and many threw flowers into his cell window but amongst them were noted the daughter of the prisons guard, who visited him more often and helped him to keep his spirits up.

Unfortunately, we seem to live in a time where for some reasons most people are not genuine in their dealings with people, it is either they are with you for some benefits or they simply can't be honest with you, yet they still want to be close and fit into the friend category.

Despite all these, I still believe there are some nice people out there and I  hope you are able to find that person that can be your friend even when the whole world thinks you are so wrong and deserved to be alone. We all need someone to help keep us going particularly in hard times, when we are all by ourselves and would do with some companionship. For some people, they simply decide to be disconnected with the world but that doesn't mean that when eventually reached they would back out, instead they will forever remain grateful you did. Besides, those are the times to prove we truly care for someone because when we are doing so well and bubbling there are friends of all calibre in all nook and cranny.

As other remarkable days are celebrated so is today being celebrated. So show some love to someone, appreciate those that have made your live colourful in any way. Obviously, couples and lovers celebrate this day but it is not only meant for them. Ignore the fact that these days many ideas are overrated, you can mark Valentines day with family, an old friend, a colleague;anyone that thinks well of you.

 P.S. Happy St Valentine's day Friends. May your hearts be filled with love of God and love of man. Cheers.

New Year:To Be Resolute Or Not.

We rarely talk about the new year without mentioning the huge 'new year resolutions'. It is a good idea to be fully prepared for a new year; being hopeful that undoubtedly it has good things in stock for us. This could be likened to the way we are willing to accept and welcome new people or babies in our lives.

Recently, I had a chat with a friend about the new year;what should be expected and the likes. The chat was going on well and all of a sudden she said in a very careless tone  'I no longer do new year resolutions'.

I was going to ask her where did that one come from,  in the sense that I don't know how such an idea got into her head let alone hearing her say it. 'Sorry...'  She laughed at me and repeated herself. She added that it is childish. Gone are the days when in the beginning of a year people make lists of things they want to do; lose weight and quit smoking, nothings changes it is the same like in the past days and past year. She really made herself clear.I had to listen to all of that despite knowing I had heard enough. However, I knew it would get to my turn and that she would have to take in what I was going to say.

In my opinion, such lists are not applicable to everyone. Cliches like that are overly rattled and not paid attention to. Besides, when we talk about the new year resolution it doesn't necessarily mean that we are about discarding all our previous ways of life or former ways of doing things. In fact, towards the end of a year, I like doing a total reflection of the whole year; how I have fared, whether I achieved some set targets, unexpected favours, difficult situations and how I handled them, some nice people I met, people who influenced me, people who challenged me-those that made me put in more effort at some point, personal improvements...the list is endless. This is my kind of list and obviously with this, I usually have some provisions for some new year resolutions because there are things I would like to carry along, some modified while others dropped. They equally groom one properly as they attain certain life milestones.

I gave her some examples that were applicable to her and at the end she agreed with me but said she still don't call them resolutions. I didn't argue further since the problem now is the word and not the act. We never used the word 'Resolution' but settled for making some 'modifications' and 'new decisions' where necessary. 

By the time you know it, we were back to our new year yarn; what we would love to achieve in it and how we are going to go about it. 

I know she wouldn't be the only one with such perception of the new year resolution albeit, there could be other reasons why people ditch resolutions in the beginning of a year. However, I would like us to see the need to make certain life adjustments when a new year sets in- no mater how little they are.

Lastly, I was pleased we had that chat within the first week of the first month of the year and I know this is very likely to be your first time of reading this post in the first month of the year. Did I mention that my friend is neither fat nor smokes yet the first set of resolutions she could think of was to lose weight and to quite smoking. 

Plan well and achieve your dreams friends.

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